Bar & Bat Mitzvah

A child reaches the age of Jewish  ‘adulthood’ (or at least personal responsibility) at 13 for a boy and 12 or 13 for a girl depending on the community. This is known as reaching the age of  Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah – Son/Daughter of the Commandments, as from that age they are considered responsible for making their own choices in following the path of Jewish tradition and law.

This is usually marked for boys, as well as girls in Masorti, Reform and Liberal communities by lots of learning and preparation leading up to them reading a section of the Torah in public for the first time. Girls in Orthodox communities, do not read publicly from the Torah, but often study and work hard in order to deliver a ‘Davar Torah’ – a presentation on that week’s Torah chapter or another Jewish topic that is of interest to them. 

Many families also choose to have a special family meal or a party to celebrate. Another modern way of marking the occasion is to do some fundraising or volunteering for a charity of the boy or girl’s choice.

Photography by Jonathan Abrahams

AUDIO: “My Bar Mitzvah was just over 6 months ago. It was a weekend that I will never forget. The preparation actually started a year before that as I had lots of extra Jewish studies lessons as well as learning how to read from the Torah scroll. The Hebrew in the Torah doesn’t have vowels or punctuation, AND there is a tune that we sing it with, so it took many months to make sure that the chapter I read was correct.

The week of my Jewish birthday, I was called up in synagogue on Shabbat morning and read the whole chapter in front of all my friends, family and community. I was nervous but they all cheered me on! On Shabbat my parents made me a fantastic celebration with lovely food and games. The whole experience made me feel special and made me realise that I am considered to be an adult in my culture now. I learnt a lot about my religion and how to be a good member of the community. It made me proud to be a Jew.”

Zachary (Year 9), Glasgow

TO FIND OUT

1. How do people learn to read the Torah with the correct pronunciation and tune if there are are no vowels signs or musical notes?

2. Research ‘coming of age’ ceremonies from different cultures. Write about or give a presentation to your class about a couple that you find interesting.

CRITICAL THINKING

1. Do you think 12/13 is the correct age for taking some responsibility for yourself?

2. Think about other legal ages – 17 for driving, 18 for voting and drinking alcohol… Do you agree with these age limits? 

3. What religious, cultural or family traditions do you have for marking lifecycle events?

DID YOU KNOW?

1. In Orthodox communities, girls celebrate their Bat Mitzvah a year earlier than boys have their Bar Mitzvah, as girls are seen as being more mature!

2. Bat Mitzvah ceremonies have become more common over time. Just 8% of British Jewish females in their eighties had a Bat Mitzvah, compared with 60% aged 16 to 29 (JPR survey 2024).

CHECK YOUR KNOWLEDGE

1. At what age do Bar and Bat Mitzvah celebrations take place?

2. What do the words Bar Mitzvah mean in English? 

3. What do many boys and some girls read in public for the first time?